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Why am I obsessed with someone I barely know ?
When we are hit by such an obsession, a part of us feels in love, and another part of us thinks we are being weird – rightly so.
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Feeling like an alien
Feeling like an alien means we are feeling different from others. This difference can be about neurodivergence, sexual preferences, ethnic or social background, gender, exposure to traumatic circumstances, or any other “difference” we can have. Sometimes, it’s our difference itself that causes the issue, particularly in the way others look at us. In the case…
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Adult children of emotionally immature parents
Have you ever felt your life looks fine from the outside, but you’re still feeling deeply unhappy ? I have. Reading Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson would have helped me tremendously. It’s a shame it was not written yet. It’s one of these Aha books, able to change our perspective entirely…
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Why are my relationships one sided ?
Most of us go through a one sided relationship at least once. Experiencing a few is distressing, but normal. Entering a relationship is a risky business indeed: we have optimistic dreams but as we all know, reality may not go as planned. It’s a different story though if we get repetitively involved in one sided…
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Being a pathological people pleaser
We are behaving like pathological people pleasers because a part of us believes others will love and care for us if we do, and abandon or annihilate us if we don’t. As a recovering people pleaser, I can tell you this part of us is wrong. People will use us if they can, respect us…
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Why am I bad at everything ?
Some of us wonder why we are bad at everything. It looks like people we know have at least one strong point: either they are very good at their job, or great athletes, they are very social and funny, or they have an unbeatable fashion flair, you know, something. We compare ourselves to others and…
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Book Review: “Homecoming: Healing Trauma to Reclaim Your Authentic Self” by Thema Bryant
Bryant’s warm, empathetic tone is a highlight of her work, distinguishing it from the more clinical and academic texts I’ve read. You can see it with her use of Maya Angelou’s poignant quote: “I long, as does The ache for home lives in all of us.” This sentiment captures the book’s essence.
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“I Don’t Know Myself”: Overcoming the Shadow of Self-Alienation
If we don’t know what our needs or wants are, we cannot fulfill them. We are unable to take care of ourselves physically. We don’t seek closeness when we feel lonely. We don’t do or buy things that we really want. We don’t pursue things that we enjoy. What we do instead is try to…
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Book review : Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma, by Janina Fisher
While reading Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma, I have never felt so understood and validated. I was under the impression Janina Fisher was talking about me, and seeing me, all along.
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Book review: You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For, from Richard Schwartz
Who wants to realize we are repeating an old drama over and over again ? Who wants to leave this all consuming attraction, this mesmerizing chemistry, our belief this relationship will make us happy, at ease with ourselves, that we have found the one magical person ?