Why am I obsessed with someone I barely know ?
When we are hit by such an obsession, a part of us feels in love, and another part of us thinks we are being weird – rightly so.
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Limerence
Chasing unavailable partners
There are many blends of unavailable partners: uninterested ones, married ones, in-love-with-someone-else ones, and most damaging of all, narcissistic ones. I’ve chased them all.
In my internal world, we were just meant for each other. How did I know ? Because of the incredible intensity of my feelings, and the unending energy and hope I had for the “relationship”. I was over the moon, initially at least.
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Book review: You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For, from Richard Schwartz
Who wants to realize we are repeating an old drama over and over again ? Who wants to leave this all consuming attraction, this mesmerizing chemistry, our belief this relationship will make us happy, at ease with ourselves, that we have found the one magical person ?
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Why do I always fall for the wrong guy ?
“Why do I always fall for the wrong guy?” I must admit it’s a question I asked myself a few times. And when listening to a very interesting podcast with Dr Frank Anderson on trauma and Internal Family System therapy, the answer came in a reaI “aha” moment.
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Why am I lost in my thoughts ?
Being lost in one’s thoughts from time to time is normal. Spending lots of time in one’s head, thinking or dreaming about stuff, sometimes to the point of preferring alone time to living, is not. We can call it being very distracted, suffering from maladaptive daydreaming, being lost in our thoughts, and even sometimes being an introvert. What it really is, is life avoidance. It is a form of dissociation.
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When you want not to want the one you want
Since I am currently investigating love addiction and limerence, I though I would listen to one of Martha Beck’s latest podcast, “When you want not to want what you want” with the perspective of wanting not to want a person (but failing, of course).
Well, it works. I mean, her podcast is brilliant.
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Relationship wisdom
If we already need someone we don’t really know, the potential for letdown is huge. Lindsay C. Gibson
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Book Review: Living with Limerence
If you know obsessive love well, if you wonder what came upon you to believe that some of your exes were so special, if your feelings and your common sense go their separate ways when you fall in love, my advice is to read this book.
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