Codependent no more, from Melody Beattie, was one of the first self help books I bought. It has been very, very useful, all these years.
I have read it once again recently and it has stood the test of time. It’s still great, and it is still relevant for survivors of violence. Especially at the beginning of recovery, when we are completely lost.
Strangely enough, it is not about recovery from sexual abuse. Beattie defines it mainly as a consequence of being involved with alcoholics, even if she widens her definition somewhat.
The thing is, I have never been involved with an alcoholic, or any person caught up in a chemical dependency. My family of origin was dangerously dysfonctional, but no trace of alcohol at home.
Still, I could recognize me on each page of this book. This confused me for a while.Continue reading “Am I codependent ?”